All couples generally argue about five issues over and over again. Well, these five issues are all stressors that speak to our sense of love and fairness. The five things are: money, s*x, work, parenting and housework.
Let’s have a look on it!
Money: Fights between couples are common. So, instead of fighting over the amount of money that was spent on who-knows-what, shift the focus toward what really matters: security in future and realizing your dreams.
Physical relation: It’s a common problem in marriages. The number-one reason people report not having s*x in their marriage is ‘too tired,’ followed by ‘not in the mood.’
Work: You’ve heard this a thousand times: do a weekly date night or your marriage will suffer. A deliberate time to connect and have fun at least once a week were approximately three and a half times more likely to report being very happy in their marriages.
Children: Don’t try to solve your parenting squabbles in the moment—while the kids enjoy the show. The time for presenting your ideas and negotiating trade-offs is when the two of you are alone. Once you reach agreement, stick together. When parents present a united front, there’s no room for recriminating I-told-you-so’s.
Chores:The most housework fights come about because one spouse is keeping score. That’s a bad idea. The scales of marriage are always in fluctuation, and you’re only setting yourselves up for chaos if you’ve installed a figurative scoreboard in your relationship. Using the division of labor approach does away with all that.
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