Whether you are a true pessimist or a funk, these attitude changes will help improve your relationship.
Money isn’t everything: When we are not fairly compartmentalizing money in our lives, we tend to let it overshadow other joys. Plus, money is a huge source of stress and arguments in relationships.
Life is good: When you have a positive outlook on life, naturally you have a more positive outlook on your relationship. That can only make things better, especially when you’re going through hard times.
Practice gratitude each day, even for the little things. Some people find it helpful to keep a gratitude journal so you have something to look back on when it’s hard to muster positivity.
I deserve this: When you feel like you don’t deserve the good things in your life, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The same is true when you feel like you’re worthy. Also, feeling like you’re not worthy creates a subtle inequality of worth.
Remind yourself that you deserve this happiness whenever you feel creeping doubt. Give yourself a mini pep-talk.
I’m beautiful: Being able to see your own beauty is part of having a healthy self-esteem, and healthy self-esteem is essential to healthy relationships.
Stop all negative thoughts about your appearance in their tracks and replace them with positive thoughts. You might be surprised how many times per day you have to do this, but don’t give up. You’ll eventually retain your brain to stop going to negative places.
This person is not my everything: When your attitude is that your partner enhances your life but isn’t your everything, you keep your friends, maintain your hobbies and interests, and basically do you. And if the day comes when you lose them, you’re still fine on your own two feet, no matter how sad it is.
Do you. Keep your friends. Get to a healthy place where you can be alone and take care of yourself if you need to, even if you’re in a relationship. Appreciate that your partner is amazing, but never lose sight of your individuality.
I enjoy stability: If you never let yourself experience stability or stick things out when they’re not exciting or fun, you miss out on the joys of deep, long-lasting connection.
Learn to see stability as a great thing. Learn to appreciate that sometimes boring is actually not boring, but content.