Achieving orgasms together are a double bonanza for any couple. A simultaneous orgasm is one of the most intimate and exciting things a couple can share during sex, yet like so many good things, it doesn’t come easy.
Experts say that both partners can attain the big O together, if they keep a few things in mind. Climaxing at the same time as your lover doesn’t have to be the stuff of make-believe, as there are a few things you can do to boost your chances of synchronized success.
Take it to the Edge
Edging is a type of orgasm control that involves bringing yourself (or your partner) close to “the edge” of orgasm and then backing off. It sounds like the ultimate tease―and can be incorporated into kinky sex as such, if you want―but it also makes you both aware of the cues your body gives before you have an orgasm and makes you much better at controlling when you have your orgasm.
Try it in Round 2
On average it takes men between three and five minutes to orgasm during sex, whereas for women it’s more like 12 to 14, so the math doesn’t really add up.
The possibility of you both climaxing together is therefore greatly enhanced later on in your love-making session, as having already had one orgasm himself, he should have – shall we say – slightly more stamina to help you both go the distance second time around.
Finishing Moves
There are certain positions for having an orgasm. The clitoris and G-spot are two of a woman’s most erogenous zones so adopting positions that pay attention to these two areas is recommended.
Missionary and cowgirl allow manual stimulation of the clitoris, which is how a majority of women achieve orgasm, though you may want to incorporate this position into solo sex to get yourself used to orgasming when in similar positions with your partner.
Knowledge is power
A thorough knowledge of each other’s sexual likes and dislikes can help. You should also know about the turn-offs, for both.
Communication is key
For better timing of simultaneous orgasms, partners need to communicate with each other effectively. For instance, if he’s almost reaching the point of no return and you need to catch up, you can always ask for a slow down.
Trial and error
Attaining orgasms together cannot be fully guaranteed. So you need to be ready for some trial and error as well.
Don’t be stressed
It’s not the be-all, end-all of lovemaking. So, don’t stress about not achieving the twin delight at all. Don’t overthink or overanalyse. Just enjoy being together.
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